Finding Less to Fight About


How nice it is when you finally settle down and don’t take everything so personally anymore!

When you’re young and don’t know any better, you can take offense so easily.  Things that really don’t matter get you bristling, an innocent word or action by someone instantly jumps you into fight or flight mode, and heaven forbid anyone actually outright tries to insult you!

That makes for a rough, stressful, often gut-wrenching life.  :(

How nice it is when you finally settle down and don’t take everything so personally anymore!

Then things that don’t really matter usually run off you like water on a duck’s back, innocent words and actions stay innocent and may even make you smile, and you finally find yourself overlooking insults as thoughtless or actually meaningless moments by someone who is in some type of immediate distress, feeling insecure.

And you can easily let it go.

Especially when it comes from someone you love.  You put them first, and more important, than whatever it is that is trying to get between you.  You might let it in for a moment, that’s only human.  But you know how to rise above it and move on to more important things.

True bliss!

Do You Ever Feel Weird?


Recently as I was leaving the building, I suddenly felt kind of weird.  You may have felt it before yourself, something just kind of hits you, feels a bit strange.

I found myself wondering what brought it on.  I immediately began a mental checklist to see if I can discover why I’m feeling this way right now.

  • Did I forget something? 
  • Did something happen that I need to deal with? 
  • Did someone say or do something that is affecting me? 
  • Did a negative thought just jump into my head?
  • Is it something positive that I just haven’t been able to really give some thought to?
  • Is there something I need to share with someone that I haven’t taken care of yet?
  • Is it something that bothers me that I have no control over, but worry about anyway?

It amazes me how much my emotions and thoughts can affect me!  This time I can’t discern a specific reason for the feeling, so I set it aside and think about where I’m going.  If the checklist had brought something to my attention, I could have considered it, contemplated what the best course of action might be around it, and decided what to do about it.  Or not.

Sometimes I’m just not ready to deal with the issue and need a little time to adjust.

Oh well, this too shall pass!  :)  Feelings are interesting!

I Hate DVDs!


DVDs, CDs………I hate them!

“But!” you may say, “the picture is so much better, they are so thin they take up almost no room, you can have 100 in an easy-to-carry compact case!”

And I would have to say that you bring up some good points. 

But information, movies, shows, etc. are only as good as their vehicle of delivery.  Does this sound familiar?

You go to the store and find the very CD, or DVD, that you have been wanting forever.  You buy it on the spot!

You unpackage it (this could be a whole other story in and of itself), go over to the device you are going to play it in, and carefully lift it out of the holder.  You pop it into the electronic appliance that will magically “read” and play it for you.  You sit back to relax and enjoy your new-found prize!

Then,

What’s this?  It just skipped ahead!  You can’t get it to go back and play correctly.  So, you take it out of the machine, turn it over, and look. 

WHAT?

A huge scratch across the disk!

And you thought balloons deflate fast when they are popped.  Ha! 

Now you have to live with a disk you can never enjoy, try to go all the way back to the store to exchange it, or just throw it away.  :(

Nope, I hate DVDs, and CDs.  Give me back a good old VCR or audio cassette tape.  Those things live forever.  They take more punishment and replays than anything else around! 

Yep, give me back the tapes!  :)

The Men’s Turn


Do you ever wonder what the true vision of manhood is? 

Do you have trouble finding balance in today’s world with society’s awkward and often disjointed views of men, particularly because of all the so-called advances?

Do you long to find your rightful place – your reason for living?

Everyone struggles with these questions, and more, from time to time.  Especially today, when we seek the real meaning of manhood, equality, fatherhood, personhood, etc. it can seem that no one really knows, and everyone is simply putting forth their own opinion of what should be.

I invite you to find out for yourself, to feel a peace and calm that will fill your soul and satisfy your yearnings!

Today, Saturday, April 4, 2015 was the Priesthood broadcast of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints!  It is available to view at your leisure at lds.org.  If you missed it, or want to see it again, or see previous ones, go there and enjoy the spiritual feast!

You may never be the same again!  :)

 

General Women’s Conference


Do you ever wonder what the true vision of womanhood is? october-2013-general-conference-1169820

Do you have trouble finding balance in today’s world with society’s awkward and often disjointed views of women despite all the so-called advances?

Do you long to find your rightful place – your reason for living?

Everyone struggles with these questions, and more, from time to time.  Especially today, when we seek to define womanhood, equality, motherhood, personhood, etc. it can seem that no one really knows, and everyone is simply putting forth their own opinion, of what should be.

I invite you to find out for yourself, to feel a peace and calm that will fill your soul and satisfy your yearnings!

This Saturday, March 28, 2015 beginning at 6:00pm MDT you can be a part of the largest Women’s conference in the world!  It will be broadcast from Salt Lake City, Utah, USA and you can watch it live at lds.org totally free.  If you miss it, or want to see it again, or go now and see previous ones, go there and enjoy the spiritual feast!

You may never be the same again!  :)

 

Driving Along in My Great Big Van


The other day I had to take a different car to work.  So I climbed in, and off I went.

I started down the familiar path that I usually take to go to work.  I haven’t driven this vehicle much for a while, so I’m watching where I am in the lane, trying to stretch a little so the sun won’t be in my eyes so much, staying in the right-hand lane so I can kind of settle in for the drive.

Then a truck comes up in the next lane, passes me, and moves in right in front of me!  I hate… well OK… dislike… trucks.  They think they own the road and can go wherever they want.  You can’t see around them and have no clue what’s going on in front of them, nor what could impact you in your car.

But hey!  :)  I can see right over the top of you, truck! 

Wow, this is kinda cool. 

You jumped in front of me, and I can see right over the top of you.  In fact, I’ve got a very good view of pretty much everything.

Here comes a larger truck.  OK, you are my equal, but…you are my equal.  You are as tall as I am, but only as tall as I am!  I won’t be feeling small or vulnerable today!

You know, it’s kind of fun to be driving around in my great big, 1-ton, 15 passenger, Ford van!  :)

(‘course, parking…………..is a different story.)

Oh, The Things We Presume!


Has this ever happened to you?  You’re going about your life and you suddenly notice something that was totally unexpected!

What do you do? 

Oftimes we instantly make an assumption about what just happened, and why it happened. 

It’s a totally normal, natural, automatic thing to do.  You don’t have the think about doing it, it just pops into your head!  And of course, since you are always right about everything, you know that this reading of the situation is not only correct, but the only possible answer and it rarely even occurs to you to look for another possibility.

That is really not all that bad.  Where the problem arises is with what happens after that.

Because now you suddenly see things in a different light – the light you just presumed, or assumed to be correct – you change the way you act, or react, to that situation, or worse yet, to things in general. 

All of a sudden you are changing your life based on something that you actually don’t even know about for sure.  Because you have now decided to change your thinking by accepting your presumption as truth and so your feelings and thoughts have now changed, often not for the better.

You find yourself on a downward spiral, perhaps slipping out of control, definitely not what you normally would have decided to become, and you feel there is nothing you can do about it.  Afterall, you didn’t give it thought and come to a logical conclusion after searching through the possibilities of what occurred.  So you are simply along for the ride…

But wait! 

By checking on the presumption you made, particularly if you stop to ask about what happened or even brainstorming other meanings to what happened, you suddenly find not only a new thought process, but usually several possible reasons for what happened.

Now you are not locked into one way of thinking and acting anymore. 

Now you are again the master of your soul, you get to choose what you are going to think and to do.

Oh, the things we presume!  :)