Want To Feel Better?

You don’t even have to feel down.  You don’t HAVE to be wondering what’s wrong in your life.  No need to be worried about the state society and the world are in.

Whether you are on top of the world or not.

You will always feel better when you tune in to the LDS semi-annual, worldwide General Conference!  And it starts in about 2 hours.  But…

In the meantime, or anytime, you can go and watch previous conferences and feel the same uplifting and joyful feelings that you do when you watch it happen live.

This is another great blessing we have available to us from The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints (the Mormons).  It is proof that God, your Heavenly Father, loves you and all His children and does not leave us to wander alone and unsure through life.

In fact, it is quite the opposite.  It is a feast for the soul!  A veritable smorgasbord of hope, joy, peace, comfort, and love that will always leave you a better person that before.  Guaranteed.

God loves His children and has given us so much good in the world.  And today we have more goodness and happiness to surround ourselves with than any other time throughout the history of the world!  Although we live in a tough time in many ways, we also live in the best of times in more ways.

“How?” you may ask.

Come and see.  You can participate at any time.  Try it and see.  :)


Your Self-Worth

Your self-worth can be an elusive thing.  It can increase and decrease almost as the waves upon the sand.  Do you have any control over it?  Does it seem that many times it is simply not even there?

What affects your self-worth?  Often small things can have such a big impact on it:

  • You didn’t get through your to-do list (OK, not all things that affect you are small)
  • Bad hair day (maybe it rarely does turn out well…)
  • Someone got upset with you.
  • No one understands you.
  • You don’t understand you.
  • The person who passed you in the hall ignored you, didn’t even smile.
  • No one is liking you on social media.
  • You are only getting likes but no comments on social media.
  • No one is reaching out to you, so obviously, no one likes you.

Is that really where your self-worth should be coming from?

Is there some rule you don’t know about that would help?  Some secret to happiness?  Some way to feel self-worth despite everything listed above?  And everything else that’s happening, or not happening, in your life?  Is there an answer?

Yes, there is an answer.  And it is not complicated.

You are the offspring of Deity.  God is your Father.  And Jesus Christ, Heavenly Father’s only Begotten in the flesh and your Brother, showed the way to self-worth.

It is this simple:

Reach out to someone in need.

Go ahead and test me on this.  Test God on this.  Jesus showed by example that when you reach out to someone else, not only do you make a difference to that person, but God, your Heavenly Father, then makes a difference to you!  You will have feelings of self-worth.  It is one of those natural laws that always has and always will exist.

And there are people all around you who are in need of even your smallest act of kindness:

  • Send an encouraging note to someone who is struggling with something.
  • Smile to someone you pass on the street.
  • Call someone who has been on your mind lately.
  • Go and visit someone who is all alone.
  • Offer to watch the kids for a couple of hours.
  • Help someone with a problem that you have successfully dealt with.
  • Comfort someone who is sad.
  • Forgive the person who just cut you off while you were driving.
  • Do something nice for someone in secret (you get extra points for this one!)

Self-worth is not so elusive as it might first appear.  It is the natural and God-given result of realizing who you are and reaching out to bless and lift others.

Try it and see.  :)


I love rain!

I remember when I was about 5, riding my tricycle outside and having great fun with my siblings.  It started to rain, just a bit, a sprinkle really.  I was so excited!

It felt great.  A bit cooler, getting a little wet, enjoying the experience.

Then my mother made us go inside to get out of the rain.  :(  I wanted to stay outside and enjoy it a little longer.  I still remember that.  :)

And when I was a teenager we learned to coolest song about rain!  I still remember it now.  It describes rain perfectly.  It is called Soft Rain (and I found it on the internet at http://annieofbluegables.blogspot.com/2007_09_01_archive.html:

Rain falls
soft rain at my window
Every butterfly has hurried away
All the honeybees have called it a day
And the columbine are bending their heads
in the rain

Rain falls
soft rain making puddles
for the children’s feet
the puddles are sweet
And the skater-bug fleet finds the small pools a treat
And the columbine are bending their heads
in the rain.

While the rain is falling there’s a quietness about the world;
While the thunder is calling there’s a quiet hush about the world
A time to remember the beautiful things,
To look for tomorrow and your fondest dreams

Rain falls
soft rain through the tree boughs
Bringing ev’ning birds a quick friendly bath
washing afternoon dust from my wide garden path
And the columbine are bending their heads
in the rain.

Rain. . . falls. . .
soft rain at my window. . .
I will go outside where sleepy rain blows. . .
Feel the wet on my face. . .feel the wet on my clothes. . .
And like the columbine. . .
I want to bow my head
in the rain. . . . . .

It’s a beautiful song.  And rain is beautiful too.  It is calming, peaceful, interesting, cleansing, and cooling (especially on a hot summer day).  So the next time you see the rain begin, instead of thinking, “What a bother” remember who sent the rain, appreciate the Lord’s bounty, and give a prayer of thanks.  :)

What’s your favorite story about rain?

And You Wonder Why Mormons….!

You wonder why Mormons…..

I met 2 young women who have been beat up by their drunken husbands!

….And you wonder why Mormons don’t drink.

Adventures With Healthcare

My experience with the healthcare system has been vast and varied.  Recent events have reminded me once again how important it is for both sides to try to communicate properly with one another; not presuming that the other knows everything about your side of the situation.  Even when it seems the other knows you, what you expect of them, the situation, and its outcome, there is plenty of room for misunderstanding, miscommunication, and mistaken conclusions.

In other words, for best possible outcomes, both patients and caregivers must ask for and give lots of information.  Over-communicating is better than under-communicating.

One situation I am quite familiar with is chronic pain.  Happily I can report that healthcare has made great advances in dealing with people who have chronic pain.  With the pain scale having become the gold-standard for assessing the amount of pain patients are feeling, physicians and other caregivers can have a much clearer picture of what is going on.  This helps guide their decision-making processes, enabling them to give greater comfort and aid than might otherwise be possible.

There are healthcare professionals who are very aware of chronic pain and how it affects patients.  They strive to take proper care of all patients, even hiring pain management teams to assist.  They see the situations their patients experience, and are increasing their knowledge in order to relieve greater suffering.  They take into account that not all patients feel pain in the same way, that some have an incredibly high threshold for pain while others have a very low tolerance for it.  And they seek to treat each as an individual with his or her own treatment plan.

They have talked with patients and learned that some, particularly those with chronic pain, are never pain-free and must be kept at a pain-medication maintenance level at all times, even when in the hospital.  They have acknowledged the fact that these patients need pain medicine to make the pain tolerable and help them function.  These patients do not ask for ever-increasing amounts of the medicine, they remain at the same dosage level for years.

These patients need additional pain medication when having had surgery or a serious injury that causes increased pain.  Well-informed caregivers realize that it is much easier, and takes less medication, to stay on top of the pain than it is to try to play catch-up after the pain has reached searing heights.

Additionally they recognize that there are some patients who should be, or perhaps are, feeling great pain because of their situation, yet are more concerned with remaining drug-free or at least under-medicated.  Reasons for this can vary from having previously had a negative reaction to the normal pain medication regimen all the way to believing they will be driving themselves home soon and wanting to remain clear-headed.

I have experienced situations where the attending physician went to great lengths to solve the underlying problem and continue treatment until it was resolved.  And I have experienced situations where the caregivers simply act along the baseline for that type of situation, not looking any deeper to become familiar with the whole picture (or perhaps just failing to review the situation with the patient where assurances could have been given, and needs properly addressed).  The more we know and understand all sides of issues within healthcare, the better off all will be.  Suffering can decrease and wellness increase as pain and other complications are handled properly or avoided altogether.

What types of healthcare experiences have impacted you?