We have been married for many years now.
And I’m very happy to say that we have reached the point where we are truly comfortable with each other. It is a great place to be!
We trust that each has the best intentions towards the other. And we pretty well always do.
We consider any idiosyncrasies that we happen to see as endearing, or easily overlooked.
We look for ways to help each other, even if it’s not convenient.
We turn to each other when we have problems. And we talk things out. We can share strong emotions in a respectful way that keeps our relationship in tact.
How does this happen?
Good question. I remember reading about it over the years not really understanding it. At times it seemed totally out of reach, a fairy tale, a shoot-for-the-stars-never-to-reach-them type goal.
But little by little, over time, we made little adjustments and kept trying to improve our marriage relationship. Then something would happen and we’d mess up. Sometimes more than others.
But we were determined not to give up. We picked ourselves up, dusted ourselves off, and start all over again. (to quote the song)
I encourage you to keep on trying, to be committed to each other, to hang in there because things do change and they do get better!