You know, we really do not know what others are thinking or why they do the things they do. So, what happens?
Our minds fill in the blanks!
We start imagining all sorts of scenarios about why they did what they just did.
And of course, our minds are VERY imaginative and creative!
Even when we have no creativity in our bodies whatsoever, times like this our minds take over and run away with us. We might imagine absolute worst-case scenarios, or an infinite number of storylines, with rarely a good ending coming up.
And usually we go about our lives living out this fantasy, this made-up story as though it were absolutely true life! What does that get us?
Not to a good place. We get stressed out, overwhelmed, become negative, cranky, and worse.
All because of a “dream”!
But what if we challenge those stories?
There are several ways to do this.
- We can remember that others are the same as we are, trying to do the best they can with the imperfect circumstances they are faced with in life.
- We can check out what we imagine by asking the other person if that is what is true.
- We can simply ask questions so as to understand the other person better and learn what life story is going on in their mind.
- We can assume the best and treat them as a friend. Friendship usually goes a long way towards bringing people together rather than driving them apart.
When I have approached situations in one of these ways, some of the most amazing things have resulted!
So I encourage you, next time you’re faced with something you don’t quite understand, instead of running away where your mind wants to take you, stop and check it out. Give the other person a chance to become a friend.
And remember, everyone has a burden to carry.