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Easter, Christ’s Atonement, and Offenses


Easter is a celebration of Jesus Christ’s atonement.  And through His atonement, we can overcome the offenses others can cause – intentional or unintentional.

When we feel offended by someone it feels as though we were stabbed to the very heart!  We find ourselves re-living it over and over in our minds.  We can’t take our minds off that event.

It eats at us, we picture different responses to it – most of which are very unpleasant, especially towards the other person.

We feel as though we’d fallen into a constricting tunnel, a funnel really, a bottomless one at that.  You may have felt this at one time or another in your life.

But, because of Jesus Christ, the example He set for us, and His atonement where He also suffered for all our pains, we can look to Him and remember that what others do to us does not define us and does not have to affect us in those ways!

Instead, we have a number of options available to us, i.e.:

  • Most offenses were not even meant to offend.  It is simply the way we interpreted them that caused us to become upset.  We can choose to decide that nothing negative was meant and move on with our lives.
  • Even if the offenses were meant to offend, we have choices for how to deal with them.  We can let it go (thus taking their power to hurt us away from them); talk with the offender to see if we can work out something more constructive in our relationship; we can do something nice for them and totally disarm the offender (or do it without letting anyone know and start healing our own spirits immediately); go and do something we find joyful or engrossing to take our minds off it and thus not feel the pain.
  • One of my own favorite things to do is to turn to prayer.  Talking things over with our kind and loving Father in Heaven can help calm us, puts us in a different state of mind, and invites Him to bless us with His tender mercies and all-powerful love.  (It might take a good long talk, or even several good long talks sometimes.)

This is only a few.  But we are invited to move forward in our lives and not let little hiccups stop our progress.

Use this Easter season to remember Christ’s great love for you.  And pass that love along to others.

Truly celebrate Easter this year!  🙂

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Happy Valentine’s Day


Today is Valentine’s Day, a day to show others that you appreciate having them in your life.

How wonderful it is that we have friends in this life.  Friends are there for you when you are sad or going through something difficult, they enjoy being around you just because of who you are, they love and support you through both your ups and your downs.

The world would be a sad place without friends.  It is so nice to share things with others.  You enjoy them more that way!  A friend can help you see something from a different perspective, put new light on something, open new worlds to explore or create.

And how wonderful it is when you find that special friend, someone who will love you forever, go through thick and thin with you, cheer you on when you have something hard to do, comfort you when you go through trials, stick with you even when you have a bad day, be understanding of you so your bad day doesn’t have to stay bad, appreciate your little idiosyncrasies, tell you (kindly) when you have done something you shouldn’t have, and forgive you readily.

Of course, you do the same for them.  That makes for a wonderful relationship.

And you keep that person foremost in your life.  You don’t let anything or anyone else become more important to you than they are.  You are the first to say you are sorry, the first to forgive them, the first to overlook their ingratitude or thoughtlessness because you realize that you have also been guilty of those things.  Mostly you look for the good and positive in that person and in your relationship with them.  There is enough sorrow in the world without always dwelling on past hurts or mistakes.  Besides, you hate to be reminded of your past shortcomings so why do that to someone else?

I am so very blessed to have a very special man in my life.  Beloved hubby and I have had many adventures, many ups and downs.  But we have tried to be there for each other, especially during the rough spots.  We have grown in love over the years and feel closer than we ever dreamed we could.  We have laughed together, cried together, prayed together.  Our love of God has helped us see life from a higher plane and not get endlessly stuck in the mire of a single problem.

Our faith in God has brought us to heights otherwise unattainable, for Father in Heaven blesses those who love and honor Him.  We are better people for following His commandments and striving to follow Christ.

I wish you as much success and happiness.  Happy Valentine’s Day!  🙂

25 Days of Christ – Day 22


A beautiful talk given by Richard G. Scott, a modern-day apostle of the Lord, Jesus Christ, regarding forgiveness and many of the things we have talked about in our 25 Days of Christ.  Enjoy the Spirit of Christ as you read:

“Recently, while traveling on an unfamiliar road, I encountered a large temporary sign declaring Rough Road Ahead, and indeed it was. Had I not been warned, that experience would have been disastrous. Life is like that. It’s full of rough spots. Some are tests to make us stronger. Others result from our own disobedience. Helpful warnings in our personal life can also save us from disaster. A damaged road presents the same obstacles to every traveler until others repair it. The highway of life is different. Each one of us encounters unique challenges meant for growth. Also, our own bad choices can put more barriers in the path. Yet we have the capacity to smooth out the way, to fill in the depressions, and to beautify our course. The process is called repentance; the destination is forgiveness.

“If you have ignored warnings and your life has been damaged or disabled by a rough road, there is help available. Through that help you can renew and rebuild your damaged life. You can start over again and change your course from a downward, twisting, disappointing path to a superhighway to peace and happiness.

“I want to help you find that relief. To do that it is necessary to give you some background information that will make the remedy more logical and the steps to healing more meaningful.

“Every incorrect choice we make, every sin we commit is a violation of eternal law. That violation brings negative results we generally soon recognize….They can have a tremendous effect on the quality of our life here and most certainly will powerfully affect it hereafter. We can do nothing of ourselves to satisfy the demands of justice for a broken eternal law. Yet, unless the demands of justice are paid, each of us will suffer endless negative consequences.

“Only the life, teachings, and particularly the atonement of Jesus Christ can release us from this otherwise impossible predicament. Each of us has made mistakes, large or small, which if unresolved will keep us from the presence of God. For this reason, the atonement of Jesus Christ is the single most significant event that ever has or ever will occur. This selfless act of infinite consequence, performed by a single glorified personage, has eternal impact in the life of every son and daughter of our Father in Heaven—without exception. (see Mosiah 5:10-13)  It shatters the bonds of death. It justifies our finally being judged by the Master. (see 2 Nephi 2:10)  It can prevent an eternity under the control of the devil. (see 2 Nephi 9:7-9)  It opens the gates to exaltation and eternal life for all who qualify for forgiveness through repentance and obedience. (see 2 Nephi 2:5-8)

“The Redeemer can settle your individual account with justice and grant forgiveness through the merciful path of repentance. (see Alma 42:15)  Full repentance is absolutely essential for the Atonement to work its complete miracle in your life. By understanding the Atonement, you will see that God is not a jealous being who delights in persecuting those who misstep. He is an absolutely perfect, compassionate, understanding, patient, and forgiving Father. He is willing to entreat, counsel, strengthen, lift, and fortify. He so loves each of us that He was willing to have His perfect, sinless, absolutely obedient, totally righteous Son experience indescribable agony and pain and give Himself in sacrifice for all. (see Helaman 5:9)  Through that atonement we can live in a world where absolute justice reigns in its sphere so the world will have order. But that justice is tempered through mercy attainable by obedience to the teachings of Jesus Christ.

“Which of us is not in need of the miracle of repentance?…Our goal surely must be forgiveness. The only possible path to that goal is repentance, for it is written: ‘There is no other way nor means whereby man can be saved, only through the atoning blood of Jesus Christ. …’

“…Obedience and faith in the Savior give you power to resist temptation. Helaman taught: ‘It is upon the rock of our Redeemer, who is Christ, the Son of God, that ye must build your foundation; that when the devil shall send forth his mighty winds, … when all his hail and his mighty storm shall beat upon you, it shall have no power over you to drag you down to … endless wo, because of the rock upon which ye are built, which is a sure foundation, … whereon if men build they cannot fall.’ (see Helaman 5:12)

“…What is repentance? How is it accomplished? What are its consequences? These may seem to be simple questions, but it is clear that many do not know how to repent.

“In The Miracle of Forgiveness, Spencer W. Kimball gives a superb guide to forgiveness through repentance. It has helped many find their way back. He identifies five essential elements of repentance.

“Sorrow for sin….That will bring healing sorrow and remorse. It will also bring a sincere desire for change and a willingness to submit to every requirement for forgiveness….

“Abandonment of sin. This is an unyielding, permanent resolve to not repeat the transgression. By keeping this commitment, the bitter aftertaste of that sin need not be experienced again….

“Confession of sin. You always need to confess your sins to the Lord. If they are serious transgressions, such as immorality, they need to be confessed to a bishop or stake president….Essential to forgiveness is a willingness to fully disclose to the Lord and, where necessary, His priesthood judge all that you have done. Remember, ‘He that covereth his sins shall not prosper: but whoso confesseth and forsaketh them shall have mercy.’ (see Proverbs 28:13)

“Restitution for sin. You must restore as far as possible all that which is stolen, damaged, or defiled. Willing restitution is concrete evidence to the Lord that you are committed to do all you can to repent.

“Obedience to all the commandments. Full obedience brings the complete power of the gospel into your life with strength to focus on the abandonment of specific sins. It includes things you might not initially consider part of repentance, such as attending [church] meetings, paying tithing, giving service, and forgiving others. The Lord said: ‘He that repents and does the commandments of the Lord shall be forgiven.’ (see Doctrine and Covenants 1:32)

“I would add a sixth step: Recognition of the Savior. Of all the necessary steps to repentance, I testify that the most critically important is for you to have a conviction that forgiveness comes because of the Redeemer. It is essential to know that only on His terms can you be forgiven. Witness Alma’s declaration: ‘I was … in the most bitter pain and anguish of soul; and never, until I did cry out unto the Lord Jesus Christ for mercy, did I receive a remission of my sins. But … I did cry unto him and I did find peace to my soul.’ (see Alma 38:8)  You will be helped as you exercise faith in Jesus Christ.  That means you trust Him and you trust His teachings. Satan would have you believe that serious transgression cannot be entirely overcome. The Savior gave His life so that the effects of all transgression can be put behind us, save the shedding of innocent blood and the denial of the Holy Ghost.

“The fruit of true repentance is forgiveness, which opens the door to receive all of the covenants and ordinances provided on this earth and to enjoy the resulting blessings. When a repentant soul is baptized, all former sins are forgiven and need not be remembered. When repentance is full and one has been cleansed, there comes a new vision of life and its glorious possibilities. How marvelous the promise of the Lord: ‘Behold, he who has repented of his sins, the same is forgiven, and I, the Lord, remember them no more.’ (Doctrine and Covenants 58:42)  The Lord is and ever will be faithful to His words.

“Do not take comfort in the fact that your transgressions are not known by others. That is like an ostrich with his head buried in the sand. He sees only darkness and feels comfortably hidden. In reality he is ridiculously conspicuous. Likewise our every act is seen by our Father in Heaven and His Beloved Son. They know everything about us.

“Adultery, fornication, committing homosexual acts, and other deviations approaching these in gravity are not acceptable alternate lifestyles. They are serious sins. Committing physical and sexual abuse are major sins. Such grave sins require deep repentance to be forgiven. President Kimball taught: ‘To every forgiveness there is a condition. The plaster must be as wide as the sore. The fasting, the prayers, the humility must be equal to or greater than the sin.’   

“…Sometimes the steps of repentance are initially difficult and painful, like the cleansing of a soiled garment. Yet, they produce purity, peace of mind, self-respect, hope, and finally, a new person with a renewed life and abundance of opportunity.

“This scripture will help you know what to do: ‘Nevertheless they did fast and pray oft, and did wax stronger and stronger in their humility, and firmer and firmer in the faith of Christ, unto the filling their souls with joy and consolation, … because of their yielding their hearts unto God.’ (Helaman 3:35)

“For your peace now and for everlasting happiness, please repent. Open your heart to the Lord and ask Him to help you. You will earn the blessing of forgiveness, peace, and the knowledge you have been purified and made whole. Find the courage to ask the Lord for strength to repent, now. I solemnly witness that Jesus Christ is the Redeemer. I know that He lives. I testify that He loves you personally and will help you.

“Obtain His forgiveness by repenting, now. In the name of Jesus Christ, amen.”