Tag Archives: Marriage

The Men’s Turn


Do you ever wonder what the true vision of manhood is? 

Do you have trouble finding balance in today’s world with society’s awkward and often disjointed views of men, particularly because of all the so-called advances?

Do you long to find your rightful place – your reason for living?

Everyone struggles with these questions, and more, from time to time.  Especially today, when we seek the real meaning of manhood, equality, fatherhood, personhood, etc. it can seem that no one really knows, and everyone is simply putting forth their own opinion of what should be.

I invite you to find out for yourself, to feel a peace and calm that will fill your soul and satisfy your yearnings!

Today, Saturday, April 4, 2015 was the Priesthood broadcast of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints!  It is available to view at your leisure at lds.org.  If you missed it, or want to see it again, or see previous ones, go there and enjoy the spiritual feast!

You may never be the same again!  🙂

 

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An Enriching Hour


We just spent a wonderful hour in, or I should say, at (or maybe on) YouTube.  There is some marvelous stuff there!

We heard about a special upload that The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints recently put on YouTube, and thought we’d check it out.  But, how to find it?

Beloved hubby suggested putting “LDS Church” into the search box, which we did.  The third result was the one we’d heard about and so we watched it.  It was done so beautifully and movingly.  When it ended a pleasant sight greeted my eyes!

Every suggestion of what to watch next was from the Church, and there was some great stuff to choose from!  We selected one about all worthy male members being able to have the priesthood, then a video about missionaries, another about the daily life of missionaries in the Mission Training Center, one or two more, then one about the temples of the Church.

What a beautiful video that one was!  It explained how the temples are different than our regular meetinghouses, explained why only those who are devote members are allowed to enter, why we go there (though before they are dedicated all people are allowed to go through and see them), and showed the great beauty of these buildings both inside and out!

It left me feeling in awe and grateful, even though I’ve been in the temple hundreds (at least) of times.  Of course, that is exactly why I love going to the temple!

It was an absolutely wonderful hour.  Even now I am still basking in the warm glow and soft, reverent emotions evoked by this very special hour.  I also feel closer to Beloved hubby having watched the pictures of brides and grooms being married in the beautiful, sacred temples all over the world and remembering my own marriage in the Salt Lake Temple many 🙂 years ago.

What a great way to spend an hour!  🙂

Our Anniversary


We have been married for many years now.

And I’m very happy to say that we have reached the point where we are truly comfortable with each other.  It is a great place to be!

We trust that each has the best intentions towards the other.  And we pretty well always do.

We consider any idiosyncrasies that we happen to see as endearing, or easily overlooked.

We look for ways to help each other, even if it’s not convenient.

We turn to each other when we have problems.  And we talk things out.  We can share strong emotions in a respectful way that keeps our relationship in tact.

How does this happen?

Good question.  I remember reading about it over the years not really understanding it.  At times it seemed totally out of reach, a fairy tale, a shoot-for-the-stars-never-to-reach-them type goal.

But little by little, over time, we made little adjustments and kept trying to improve our marriage relationship.  Then something would happen and we’d mess up.  Sometimes more than others.

But we were determined not to give up.  We picked ourselves up, dusted ourselves off, and start all over again. (to quote the song)

I encourage you to keep on trying, to be committed to each other, to hang in there because things do change and they do get better!

 

Countdown to Women’s Conference


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Only 6 days until it’s here!  The world’s largest women’s conference, and it is totally free!  Why should you consider watching it?

 

It makes you feel HAPPY to be a woman.

 

It gives you HOPE for the future.

 

You see THOUSANDS of other wonderful women.

 

You will have PEACE inside you.

 

You will LAUGH.

 

You will CRY.

 

There is no WOMAN-BASHING.

 

There is no MAN-BASHING (does life get better than when the sexes get along?)

 

You LEARN who you really are.

 

You feel God’s LOVE.

 

In short, your LIFE will be the better for it.  You will be glad you were a part of it!

 

It happens this Saturday, Sept. 28, 2013 at 6:00pm MDT.  It is broadcast live from Salt Lake City, Utah, USA.  You can find it on the internet at http://www.lds.org.  Here’s the link to find out more about it:

 

http://www.lds.org/broadcasts/relief-society-meetings?lang=eng

 

 

 

 

 

Husbands and Wives


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You know, life with  beloved hubby is certainly adventurous.  And after so many years we have been through thick and thin, had our share of ups and downs, experienced much joy and pain.  We have learned from each other, and we have learned together.  We are now in a place of comfort with each other.

 

What is this place of comfort?  It is a place of:

 

  • deep love and abiding faith
  • a forgiving nature
  • supporting the other when we are going through rough times
  • being the anchor when the world seems totally against you, or great depression descends upon you
  • laughing together
  • finding joy in each other’s strengths
  • looking for ways to do for the other, to serve them
  • total trust, knowing and understanding that we are looking for ways to encourage each other, and if hurt is perceived, that it was not intended (or quickly saying, “I’m sorry” if it was, and striving not to do it again)
  • knowing when to let things go unsaid
  • knowing that you do not have to always be right, and even if you are right you do not have to point it out (and you can apologize for the other’s  ill feelings)
  • “we” is more important than “me” or “thee” (you)
  • a oneness in purpose (sometimes agreeing to disagree)

 

Interestingly, our son who is on a mission recently wrote his father a letter expressing thanks for the example he set of the way he treats me.  Our son pointed out that if you look at the media, or at society in general, or even at some members of the church you see a very different attitude about marriage and the way husbands treat their wives.

 

I was also talking with a friend who has been married about 3 years.  She expressed how wonderful their life together is.  As we talked about it she said they both work, and very different schedules at that.  They each pitch in and take care of whatever needs to be done at home.  They didn’t have to “divide up the work”, and they don’t feel there are things that they won’t do, or that the other has to do.  She mentioned that if she’s folding clothes and he comes into the room, he walks over and helps her finish.  She watches for ways to help him too.  What a wonderful world they live in!

 

Course, the great thing is, any of us can live in that same wonderful world.  When we think about what makes the other happy, or what can we do to enrich our lives together, particularly as we include turning to God, our Father in Heaven and inviting Him to show us the right way to live and be happy, we step into that same wonderful world.  It is not a world devoid of heartache or pain, trials or hardships.  But it is a world where we can overcome those things.  Where we can draw closer to each other and to God.  A better world than we often see portrayed on TV or in society.

 

I love to look around me and see those couples who are happy.  I watch them to see what I can learn from them.  I also look for ways to serve and please beloved hubby.  I do little things like fix breakfast for him in the mornings (OK, it’s just cereal but we both like it), speak kindly to him even if he is upset, fix his favorite meal, spend time with him, pick things up for him because it’s hard for him to bend over, cheerfully go and help him with paperwork when he wants to work on it because he doesn’t always feel up to it (and because doing paperwork and bills is such a huge project and a great pain anyway), etc.

 

Doing this brings me great joy.  I don’t go around feeling ill-used, or worrying about what he should be doing and what I should not be doing.  That just causes contention and drives the Spirit of the Lord from my life and from our home.  You may wonder at my willingness to serve my husband.  It was Jesus Christ who showed us that true joy comes in serving.  He set the example and showed us that this is the way to true happiness.  It helps us to see our own problems with a clearer perspective, and often to gain greater understanding about our trials and how to overcome them, or sometimes even to see them in the new light where we recognize they are only problems because of the way we are looking at them.  Often things are no longer such stumbling blocks when we cease to see them as such.

 

I invite you to look at marriage and the relationship between a husband and wife in a new light.  Don’t worry about what society and the media is expounding as the acceptable way to treat this most sacred and glorious of all relationships (just look at what that attitude has gotten them).  Instead, turn to the Lord for true knowledge and insight as He designed this institution and knows exactly how to make it work.  🙂